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About 15 minutes later he's telling her how he feels etc...
There's nothing wrong with that. If involving a woman who's here
today, gone tomorrow. What happens when you hit on a friend or
co-worker after a few drinks? Was that you just being relaxed? Or did
you just really mess up?
Men are afraid of being rejected. Their scared of something that
can crush their ego in a split second. Along with any chance that they
might have had with the girl. Men have this thing in them that makes
them hold on to the man in them. Most of the time for men just the
thought of making themselves vulnerable to the female species can have
them scared shitless. Many men just sit n the side and pray the the
lady will make the first move.
Whatever you do: when you're in a bar there's always the guy who
knows his moves right? Yes! Meaning he knows how to work the ladies.
Never follow in his lead. Ladies know men like that and that's not
what we want. Be yourself, that's what we want. Trust me it's better
to be know as a shy guy then a jerk.
For the shy guy
This is probably how the "drunk people spill their guts" myth got
started. People think that when a person is drinking alcohol they
can't keep a secret. Many people believe what a drunk person tells
them because they think that their telling them the truth because
their drunk. Let's get serious here, cranberry vodka is a cocktail. It
will not make someone tell the truth. Just be careful what and who
you'll believe, especially when their drunk.
Step back into reality
Yes, alcohol helps with shyness and it lets you be more relaxed,
more comfortable and also let's people see another side of you. But
when you have something that you know you should keep a secret and not
tell anyone, you should bite your tongue. Unless you want to get
caught, and use your drunken state as an excuse for spilling the beans
so it looks like an accident. Whatever the reason is, you're the one
who has the last say on what flys out of your mouth. And if you happen
to be one of those people that believes whatever someone says under
the influence, you should think again. Whatever their saying probably
has no meaning behind it.
Get out while you still can
A lot of people have a hard time separating fantasy from reality.
Tell me if this has ever happened to you: accidentally you told a
close friend that you had feelings for her when in reality you just
have loose lips. The worst thing is that you probably thought she felt
the same towards you. We've all had times where we wished we didn't
have to remember what we did or said but in reality we know better.
What happened is that you got just a little too happy for your own
good. There's always a way to save your ass.
Let me give you a few tips.
*Number one thing you need to do is call her about three days
after you spilled your guts to her. Always remember this: don't ever
give her any specifics on what happened that night. Don't show any
guilt in your voice, trust me she'll hear it loud and clear. Just be
calm, cool and collective.
*Don't bring anymore attention to what happened then you really
need to. Act as if you have no idea what happened. This way you'll
look innocent in the matter. If you act like something's gone on then
you'll look guilty.
*Dilute your confession. Tell her that you weren't yourself that
night and you flirted with many women that same night.
*When she knows that she wasn't the only girl that you spilled
the beans to she'll probably assume that you were saying it to every
girl that walked by. Most women will be able to figure out what's
going on by this time.
*If you think that she doesn't believe what you've told her about
that night, then it's time to take another approach. This might just
show you that your "friend" wants you to like her.
*Hurry up and suggest another night out with the gang. Get drunk
and once you've reached that feeling great point ,hit on as many women
as possible. Make sure your friend is watching you work the room. She
shouldn't mind this at all if she's not interested right?
*Ignore your friend while flirting with all these other women.
She'll realize that whatever you said the last time you were out was
just rubbish.
A drunk has more control then you think. Their either craving
some attention or they just need to get something off their shoulders.
Whatever their reason is the truth comes out because they want it to.
In conclusion, drink responsibly. If
you stopped drinking all together you probably wouldn't get into a
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